| Location | Wandsworth Sw London |
| Age | 11 months |
| Cause of Death | Meningitis |
| Date of Birth | 09/03/1986 |
| Date of Death | 03/03/1987 |
| Visitors | 2,191 since 02/10/2008 |
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My Daughter Nicola Natasha Friend
I was 20 when i gave birth to her it was Mothers day, Sunday 9th March..
Her Father Clinton Friend & I had parted a few months after she was born.
' wow'
she was tiny weighed 5lb 11oz she was born on the sabbeth day"!
I had her by cearseran didnt get into our local newspapper the Gaurdian as i was too sore from the
operation still got my precious moments with her befor everyone arrived. She was born by cearceran
all of them for that matter.Mmmmmmm' she was so petite a little Angel Tin - tin ' my friends
nic-named her as she had curls on top of her head just like Tin-tin she was bald otherwise. she had
the biggest brown eyes that sparkled with delight. She called me mom she loved eating baby rusks,
she loved to dance to the theme of Eastenders swaying her little frame to the flow of the music.
OOoh and phones she would chat for hours to nobody in perticular she could natter on for ages.
She loved to slurp tea from the bottom of my cup always made the loudest noise drinking it up then
she would muaaaaaaarhhhhhhhh' realy long and loud to make us laugh.
Every morning i would wake to find she had emputied the contents of my handbag.
She love wotsits cheesy puff wotsit crisp all the orange colouring ruined most of her clothing but
i didnt mind. Jayne bought her her 1st pack' she knew it ruined her clothes yet she still bought her
more'!!
jayne was her only Aunty she knew in her short life she had one friend that was Kelly Jaynes
daughter she was six months younger than Nicola but they got along realy well .
we lived with them for a while up in Kent we shared the good times with some sad we lost track for
20 yrs but they were never far from my mememroys..
She led a very short but a happy life with me, and my family and friends and her daddy whom she
visted with each Tuesday.Sadly she was not saved from the illness of Menningitis she suffered so
much her tiny little body could not fight anymore she just was not strong enough"
It was so sad for three days i took her to the local Hospital twice they addmitted her then
discharged her one sid one theing the other sid another "!
Then when it was too late they tried' to no avail i wont deny but it was too late they worked on her
said she had a chance of survival would have convoultions for six months but a body twitch for the
rest of her life so I had some hope"!
They were doing so much so many Drs ICU were in out working on her little tiny frame she dididnt cry
once not once'....
They got her stable she was wired up to machines and drips needles in her neck she was so calm i
leaned in over to see her in her cot she had her eyes closed but somehow amongst all the noise of
the machines she knew i was there & turned her head to look up at me & said mom' mom...
I hushed her & gentlY stroked her cheek' with my finger as I had always done to sooth her to
sleep"!
I went home to wash & changed just befor arriving back my mother & brother came to collect us Nicola
had taken a turn for the worse, we reached the hospital.
I knew she was leaving me I begged her not to go i placed her St.Christopher in her hand as she
wasn't christened & slowly she fell in to unconciuosness.
I just couldnt say goodbye & walked out the room to open a window to set her sprit free"!...
My brother Paul came to let me know through his pain & Tears she had gone......
I returned to the room in the ICU she lay there still, wrapped in my mums Jumper i looked at her
took her hand to my cheek she had found the strength to clasped the St. Christopher her last fight
was over....
Septicimia raged her tiny body invaded every organ she didnt stand a chance.
which proved fatel under the neglect of a Practioner at the Hospital she was born at, she died 6
days before her first birthday' on
3rd March 07 Pan-cake day. Aged 11months 6 days of her 1st Birthday..
She was laid to rest at Roehampton's Puntney Vale' in London, that Easter-time...
Taken because God needed another Angel to help in his garden "!
Gone from this earth but not from our hearts...
Many ppl turned up to say goodbye for she was loved by all..
She was my first born the only one to take after me with her brown eyes & hair....
I went on to have three more children after losing her she now has a little sister her names
Candina she is 20, born March 28th same month as her sister.
I was so scared to have another child to love again & fear that she too would be cruley snatched
from me, but she made me love again she looked like Nicola as she slept, feed like her big sister, &
she has grown from a loving funny little girl to a beautiful young lady whom i am so very proud of.
I also went on to have two boys Nicolas little Brother's Leon & Ricardo.
Leon is 18 he was born on my Grandmother Rubys birthday 6th Feb 1992 weight 8lb 1oz he was big &
Gaw-just his eyelashes were so long he looked so cute he was laid back & a very easy going little
chap always smiling & blowing bubbles lol
Oh he took so long to crawl & walk months after his first birthday,he was a child that you could
have for hours and not worry he was content to just play quietly with out seeking any attention
unless he wanted his milk.
Hes grown into a loving calm chap happy to have a football to kick about he works as a barman A
real handsome young man.
In 1992 I had Nicolas baby brother Ricardo he weighed 4lb 8oz they were all born too soon before
their due dates but Ricardo was born way to soon he had skin looked lmost transparrant. He was a
cheeky little chap always getting hurt climbing or jumping,& bumping his head. he was so fast you
needed rollerskates to keep up with him. yet hes calmed down so much just received 8 GCSE so he
doing well at full tim sixth form for A levels in Art & photoghrahy he's a fine scetch artist.
In my memories my daughter is kept live for her death was as close as yesterday & as fresh as it
will be for all my tommorows.
9/3/09
23 years later
today should have been Nicolas Birthday her 23rd
she diidnt even get her 1st
but its a birthdate which i rember every year & my candles burn with love.
aunty jay
never forgotten tin tin always in our hearts and memories darling, hey hopeyour up there with lilliejay take care of eachother babygirl xxxxxxxxxxx
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard.
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small.
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
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♥The sky is full of bunny clouds
So soft and fat and white,♥
♥I wonder if they're hiding eggs
For angels to find with delight.♥
♥Because angels like Easter as well,
you know,
♥And there's no reason why
There shouldn't be an Easter hunt
In meadows in the sky.♥
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(")_(")HAVE A WONDERFUL EASTER,LOVE JULIE XX
God looked around His garden
and found an empty place,
He then looked down upon the earth
and saw your weary face.
He put His arms around you
and lifted you to rest.
He saw the road was getting rough,
and the hills were hard to climb,
So He closed your weary eyelids
and whispered,"Peace Be Thine."
Don't weep at my grave,
For I am not there,
I've a date with a butterfly
To dance in the air.
I'll be singing in the sunshine,
Wild and free,
Playing tag with the wind,
While I'm waiting for thee
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly fallen snow
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
of beautiful birds in circling flight
I am in the star shine of the night
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
(Anon)
Nicola
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we don't forget...nite...xxx
Hey there beautiful sister of mine
Hi Sis, :D hope your ok and well, im good getting big nearly at the end of my pregnancy now only 6 weeks and a few days to go and your little nephew will be here, your going to be an auntie thats really special because you will be his only auntie :DWe are both well and doing ok as you would know because I know your always by my side :) im getting little niggly cramps here and there and its uncomfortable to sleep laughing out loud because i love laying on my belly and cant do it nomore :( the sacrifices we have to make dammit nah i dont mind its all worth it in the end aint it!Mumms been a great support to me during this pregnancy she has been with me to the hospital all the times ive had to go mostly for my antenatal sessions we have had to go hospital and just for monitoring, if i didnt have her to support me and be there i dont think i would be as cool as i am about this pregnancy as in comforted. I am so thankful to mumm she is my best friend and so special to me i love her so much, i often sit and wonder if you was here would us 3 be as close and have the relationship me and mumm have that would of been fantastic. Words cant express how great mumm is and how i love her so and just how she is one in a million i know you watch over and see for yourself.Im so scared to give birth no petrified lol, what with having high blood pressure during this pregnancy aswell im even more scared of complications and stuff so please be there and watch over me i need all the support i can get im hoping mumm will be able to come in the delivery room i know i will need her more then ever then and it will be more comforting having her there.
Mumm made pancakes the other day we dont usually celebrate pancake day or at least have them on the day but we did this year, me and mumm went cafe in the morning and had bacon rolls hmmm yummy with coffee she had hot cholocate then i couldnt resist so i had pancakes in the cafe but they were boring only got sugar and lemon with them wasnt all that, so me and mumm went to one of the local shops and bought sprinkles and cream and bonoffee sauce i love that stuff and lemon it was funny her attempting to make them at first they just was not coming out like pancakes lol more like scrambled egg but it had been a long time before she had made them, anyway they turned out perfect in the end i had a few with everything in them hmmm yummy she did so well flipping them and making them bless her me and the boys really enjoyed them think she did too lol!Well i better go we got mice at the minute and i can hear them near mumms settee as im sitting at the computer desk and i can hear them in the kitchen god they give me the creeps so im going to go and put some shoes on and see whats going on lol, take care big sister big kisses and hugs to you, i love you so much i will write again soon, god bless say hi to all your friends love you lots and lots mwah xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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love to a special angel xxx
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